I'm single... I'm also healthy, intelligent (make of that what you will) and relatively content with my life. But, apparently, none of that matters because without a significant other, I'm somehow deficient.
I can't count the number of times mum has told me all my problems would be solved with, and I quote, "a big hairy man in your bed." What is that about? You would think in this supposedly enlightened day and age, us singles would be encouraged to be single if that's what we choose instead of asked constantly by friends, relatives and well-meaning people off the street, "so, you got a boyfriend yet?"
Why is it so wrong to be single and why does it frustrate me so much that there are people who seem to give a shit about it?
I got pretty aggravated when I heard mum telling grandma on the phone this morning, "...maybe she'll meet someone overseas."
ARGGGHHHHH!
Why? WHY do people care so much if I meet someone or not? How about we focus on the awesome trip I'm going on - on my own. No man needed. That's right - no man needed. How do you feel about that?
I guess that's why it frustrates me. If people are going to think about me, why focus on the man I haven't got and on the things I've done, or about to do, on my own without one because I'm just that awesome?
Nup, nup doesn't matter because what I really need is a big, hairy man in my bed, right? Do people think that us singles sit around feeling lonely, staring at the phone lamenting over our singleness?
FFS. Honestly. What could a man offer me, anyway?
Companionship, someone to share things with? OK, fair enough. But being an introvert means I'm pretty comfortable with my own company. I also have some awesome friends I can chat to or hang out with if I feel the urge. No man necessary for that. And besides, where's the satisfaction in going places or doing things yourself?
Babies? Not going to happen. No man needed.
Sex? Pff. Sex is easy enough to get if I want it badly enough.
Stability? This is the one that really annoys me. "When is Jennie going to find a man and settle down?" Why should that be the ultimate goal for my life?
That's not to say I'm not interested at all, I'm sure there are plenty of benefits relationships, but please stop trying to make me feel inadequate for not going down that road! I'm not actively searching and that shouldn't be a point of discussion, should it? Besides, if everyone knew the type of men I attract maybe they'd shut up about it. I don't need someone to take care of me, or control me because they think I'm just a poor, lost soul or go mental on me or think I should be grateful for their attention because I'm not exactly a super hot babe. Whatever. Although, it would be nice to have someone drive me around places.
So, now you're probably thinking I do protest too much? Whatever. I don't think I protest enough. This blog doesn't really articulate my frustration over this.
I'm single. Get over it.
I can't count the number of times mum has told me all my problems would be solved with, and I quote, "a big hairy man in your bed." What is that about? You would think in this supposedly enlightened day and age, us singles would be encouraged to be single if that's what we choose instead of asked constantly by friends, relatives and well-meaning people off the street, "so, you got a boyfriend yet?"
Why is it so wrong to be single and why does it frustrate me so much that there are people who seem to give a shit about it?
I got pretty aggravated when I heard mum telling grandma on the phone this morning, "...maybe she'll meet someone overseas."
ARGGGHHHHH!
Why? WHY do people care so much if I meet someone or not? How about we focus on the awesome trip I'm going on - on my own. No man needed. That's right - no man needed. How do you feel about that?
I guess that's why it frustrates me. If people are going to think about me, why focus on the man I haven't got and on the things I've done, or about to do, on my own without one because I'm just that awesome?
Nup, nup doesn't matter because what I really need is a big, hairy man in my bed, right? Do people think that us singles sit around feeling lonely, staring at the phone lamenting over our singleness?
FFS. Honestly. What could a man offer me, anyway?
Companionship, someone to share things with? OK, fair enough. But being an introvert means I'm pretty comfortable with my own company. I also have some awesome friends I can chat to or hang out with if I feel the urge. No man necessary for that. And besides, where's the satisfaction in going places or doing things yourself?
Babies? Not going to happen. No man needed.
Sex? Pff. Sex is easy enough to get if I want it badly enough.
Stability? This is the one that really annoys me. "When is Jennie going to find a man and settle down?" Why should that be the ultimate goal for my life?
That's not to say I'm not interested at all, I'm sure there are plenty of benefits relationships, but please stop trying to make me feel inadequate for not going down that road! I'm not actively searching and that shouldn't be a point of discussion, should it? Besides, if everyone knew the type of men I attract maybe they'd shut up about it. I don't need someone to take care of me, or control me because they think I'm just a poor, lost soul or go mental on me or think I should be grateful for their attention because I'm not exactly a super hot babe. Whatever. Although, it would be nice to have someone drive me around places.
So, now you're probably thinking I do protest too much? Whatever. I don't think I protest enough. This blog doesn't really articulate my frustration over this.
I'm single. Get over it.
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